I don't believe anyone is just entitled to respect. I don't care how much money or financial success they have enjoyed, I respect someone by how they treat others.
What else causes someone to earn your respect?
honesty is on my top list
Quote from: madison_graham on April 30, 2012, 07:45:51 PM
I don't believe anyone is just entitled to respect. I don't care how much money or financial success they have enjoyed, I respect someone by how they treat others.
What else causes someone to earn your respect?
I could not have said that any better, right on....
For me, disrespect is earned. If you make your way to my permanent shit list, you have earned your way there and stay there forever. I will not have anything to do with the people on my shit list, and I will avoid them and not even want to be in the same room with them. Is hate a strong enough word?
Currently, one male and two females are on my shit list. If you deliberately try to hurt me in any way or fuck with my life, you've earned shit list status. If you deliberately try to make me feel like shit or lie about me to others in a bad way, you've earned your way there. All 3 of these people had another thing in common, they were not only disrespectful to me, they were disrespectful to other people too. I'm 62 years old, and I don't forget and don't forgive on this issue.
Absolutely!
I agree I start out treating everyone the same it just depends on what happens from there
Quote from: madison_graham on April 30, 2012, 07:45:51 PM
I don't believe anyone is just entitled to respect. I don't care how much money or financial success they have enjoyed, I respect someone by how they treat others.
What else causes someone to earn your respect?
Madison, I totally agree with you. I am a sex therapist by trade and a confidant by choice(LOL), and provide a total package, but if some guest comes to the ranch acting beligerant, then I'd rather excuse myself. They won't get my respect but I won't lower my level to theirs. If the guest is respectful and seeking great company, then yeah, they will absolutely be well treated with respect. I'm a very nice person and will treat people how I will like to be treated.
Quote from: elyssamaria on April 30, 2012, 08:36:20 PM
Quote from: madison_graham on April 30, 2012, 07:45:51 PM
I don't believe anyone is just entitled to respect. I don't care how much money or financial success they have enjoyed, I respect someone by how they treat others.
What else causes someone to earn your respect?
Madison, I totally agree with you. I am a sex therapist by trade and a confidant by choice(LOL), and provide a total package, but if some guest comes to the ranch acting beligerant, then I'd rather excuse myself. They won't get my respect but I won't lower my level to theirs. If the guest is respectful and seeking great company, then yeah, they will absolutely be well treated with respect. I'm a very nice person and will treat people how I will like to be treated.
Wow, Great words..
RESPECT, is a hard thing for a person to have taken away from, it like the old saying, "you are only as good as your word." I do believe they go hand and hand...
I agree with Isurfer..And I have about 7 people on My List . And Like Isurfer{ I Suspect }They will Die on My List ..I respect everyone until they treat Me or My Family or friends Weird.. Or in todays Words "Start Dissin My People"..
I have no respect for people who think their shit don't stink!!! We all know who they are!!
Big Daddy Jay: one of my favorite quotes when referring to someone like that is "His shit don't stink, but his farts give him away"
Quote from: madison_graham on April 30, 2012, 07:45:51 PM
I don't believe anyone is just entitled to respect. I don't care how much money or financial success they have enjoyed, I respect someone by how they treat others.
What else causes someone to earn your respect?
Well, several of the old timers on brothel boards along with a few working girls use to say the amount of money you pay for a party is showing respect. The more you pay, the more respect you have for the women. I never thought respect was bought or sold but ya couldn't tell them. ::)
Saw this hanging some place awhile ago so hope I'm close.
To get respect be the first to show respect.
But it doesn't always function that way as you might show it first and still get none in return.
Sidewinder: I don't agree that the more a man pays, the more he respects us because one person who parties for $300 may have worked harder for that $300 he is paying us than the millionaire who pays us $1,000. For a Working Joe, that $300 has greater value and he may feel the pinch whereas for Mr. Millionaire, the $1,000 is next to nothing for him and won't effect his lifestyle. His wife probably spends that at the Day Spa without blinking an eye.
It is how a person treats others that matters. Not how much he pays us.
Having said that there are people who try to degrade us, insult us by treating us with great animosity as if we are desperate pathetic creatures by offering us $100 for an hour and they do it with a condescending or faux-naive attitude. Its this latter example that is of disrespect.
The beauty is it all comes back around to how you really feel about yourself. If you treat others with disrespect and animosity, it is because that is how you feel about your own self and you cannot ever escape yourself. You are the one person you must always go to bed with at night.
Madison Graham
Madison Graham
I go along with isurfer. I give everyone an even start. If you get yourself on my bad side, you stay there.
Respect should be given freely until it is lost, then it must be earned.
I also go along with isurfer. Everyone gets my respect, but when they land up in my doghouse, it'll take a lot of hard work for them to regain my respect. 8)
I agree with this completly respect is earned. When a person has earned respect they keep that respect. Unless they do something disrespectful to loose it.
I believe Isurfer has come closest to my position. Everyone starts out deserving respect. They can earn their way to disrespect through their actions. Once you reach my "shit list" you can then earn your way into non-existence. Simply, I no longer recognize their presence in my world. Should I come across one of those, I simply do not see them as you can't see what is not there. I don't have to carry the hate as you can't hate what doesn't exist. Simple.
Quote from: ovr-da-hill on May 01, 2012, 06:19:00 PM
I believe Isurfer has come closest to my position. Everyone starts out deserving respect. They can earn their way to disrespect through their actions. Once you reach my "shit list" you can then earn your way into non-existence. Simply, I no longer recognize their presence in my world. Should I come across one of those, I simply do not see them as you can't see what is not there. I don't have to carry the hate as you can't hate what doesn't exist. Simple.
You only choose to carry hate, and by not acknowledging that someone is present in your world, you may think that you don't see them, and you are not carrying hate, but in reality, you are in denial. The true solution is not to ignore, but to forgive and sometimes love. Hate the negative action, but love the person. That is simple.
If a person repeatedly does you wrong, even after you have shown respect or love them repeatedly, then your actions will make them think... "Why does this person do this, even if I don't deserve it". You may think that they are not thing this, but they are indeed. That is the ultimate payback. Their wrongdoings will come back to them eventually. Don't believe me? Sit down sometime and I'll tell you a made for TV true story about how I learned this the hard way.
Quote from: CookieMonster on May 01, 2012, 06:47:37 PM
Quote from: ovr-da-hill on May 01, 2012, 06:19:00 PM
I believe Isurfer has come closest to my position. Everyone starts out deserving respect. They can earn their way to disrespect through their actions. Once you reach my "shit list" you can then earn your way into non-existence. Simply, I no longer recognize their presence in my world. Should I come across one of those, I simply do not see them as you can't see what is not there. I don't have to carry the hate as you can't hate what doesn't exist. Simple.
You only choose to carry hate, and by not acknowledging that someone is present in your world, you may think that you don't see them, and you are not carrying hate, but in reality, you are in denial. The true solution is not to ignore, but to forgive and sometimes love. Hate the negative action, but love the person. That is simple.
If a person repeatedly does you wrong, even after you have shown respect or love them repeatedly, then your actions will make them think... "Why does this person do this, even if I don't deserve it". You may think that they are not thing this, but they are indeed. That is the ultimate payback. Their wrongdoings will come back to them eventually. Don't believe me? Sit down sometime and I'll tell you a made for TV true story about how I learned this the hard way.
You are probably right but I have forgiven the wrongs done me, I just choose not to be forced to remember them anymore. As Willie Nelson said "Forgiving her was easy but forgetting seems to take the longest time".
Quote from: Dr. Who on May 01, 2012, 02:05:25 PM
I also go along with isurfer. Everyone gets my respect, but when they land up in my doghouse, it'll take a lot of hard work for them to regain my respect. 8)
Well Said :-*
ODH, I love Willie Nelson!
I think some of the people on this board should remember this thought